Are you born polyamorous? Is being poly cheating?

These are two common questions that people ask when they encounter the concept of polyamory, which is the practice of having multiple consensual and ethical romantic or sexual relationships at the same time. In this blog post, we will try to answer these questions based on my personal experience and research.

First of all, are you born polyamorous? The answer is not so simple. Some people may feel that they have always been polyamorous, even before they knew the term or had any relationships. They may have felt attraction or love for more than one person at a time, and felt that this was natural and normal for them.

Other people may discover their polyamory later in life, after having monogamous relationships or exploring different forms of non-monogamy. They may realize that they are happier and more fulfilled when they have multiple partners, and that this suits their personality and values better. And some people may not identify as polyamorous at all, but rather as open, swinging, or something else. They may not see their multiple relationships as romantic or emotional, but rather as sexual or recreational.

So, there is no definitive answer to whether you are born polyamorous or not. It may depend on your individual preferences, experiences, and definitions. What matters is that you are honest with yourself and your partners about what you want and need, and that you respect the choices and boundaries of others.

Secondly, is being poly cheating? The answer to this question is much simpler: no. Cheating is breaking the rules or agreements of a relationship, whether they are explicit or implicit. Cheating is lying, hiding, or betraying your partner’s trust. Cheating is hurting your partner by violating their expectations and consent.

Polyamory is none of these things. Polyamory is creating the rules or agreements of a relationship with your partner(s), whether they are monogamous or not. Polyamory is being honest, transparent, and respectful with your partner(s) about your other relationships. Polyamory is enhancing your partner’s happiness by sharing your love and joy with others. Polyamory is not cheating, as long as everyone involved agrees to it and consents to it.

Of course, this does not mean that polyamory is easy or perfect. Polyamory can have its own challenges and difficulties, such as jealousy, insecurity, communication, time management, etc. Polyamory requires a lot of work, communication, and trust from all parties involved. Polyamory is not for everyone, and that’s okay. But for those who choose it and practice it ethically, polyamory can be a rewarding and fulfilling way of living and loving.